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You wake up one morning with a lot of motivation to change your life and start the day with a head start. Slowly your motivation decreases throughout the day and then you don't feel like working anymore and go on  YouTube to watch some entertainment videos. Sadly, you can't stay motivated all day but there's an alternative to it which you will get to know after you have read the entire blog. What is motivation? Motivation is the process that initiates, guides, and maintains goal-oriented behaviors. It is what causes you to act. Different techniques people use to remain motivated: 1) Watch some motivational videos: Although motivational videos do inspire you to work but their effect is temporary and also if we watch too many motivational videos we just get resistant towards those videos. Then those videos don't seem to inspire us. 2) Motivational quotes: Many people search motivational quotes in google. Many even put them...

I will start the article with an example. Example   Let there be two guys Trevor and Noah . Both of them want to attract girls but they both take completely opposite ways. Both of them are in their teens but both live a very different life. Trevor Trevor's lifestyle is just like all the other teens. He goes out to parties, eats junk food(like me), goes to birthdays, does not exercise or meditate. Trevor has no intention of improving his life because no one among his friends does it. Trevor also suffers from depression, looks like shit, has a really bad acne, is skinny, does not have a lot of knowledge and has a terrible hairstyle. Trevor always tries to attract girls and so he chases after them and in turn girls call him a freak. Trevor attends every party in an attempt to get a girlfriend but fails miserably everytime. Noah Unlike Trevor, Noah goes to bed early and wakes up early, he does his homework properly. Although he attends some parties but he does not go into every party ...

This may be a short but useful post. Let's start with a story...... There were two guys who wanted to build a habit of going to the gym and exercise. Let the names of the two boys be Lance and Joey. Lance is very motivated to create a new habit of going to the gym and exercising. He imagines the six packs he will have after a few days. He searches some workout in YouTube and then goes to the gym. Lance goes on to do a 2 hour long workout and comes home feeling very tired. Lance now feels so tired that he orders food from a restaurant and rests in his bed all day.  Next day, Lance wakes up from sleep with an extremely sore body so he decides to not go to the gym and take a rest day that day.  Day 3 and still Lance is a bit sore and decides he will go to the gym tomorrow.  Day 3 and this day Lance goes to the gym feeling refreshed but still a bit sore. Lance again does a 2 hour long workout. Now, Lance can't even move his body and decides to give up because exercising is v...

The main teaching from the book The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy is: "The compound effect is the strategy of reaping huge rewards from small, seemingly insignificant actions." It basically means that to achieve remarkable results we do not need to do extreme changes to our lifestyle but small insignificant changes do compound over time and it leads to great changes. A very good example would be of Ed Sheeran. Ed Sheeran once said in an interview  "I've dropped like 35 pounds in like, three months just from not drinking beer. I've replaced it with vodka." So see, many people want to lose weight quickly and see their desired results in a short amount of time by making extreme changes to their lifestyle but it simply boils down to one thing in the beginning, 'making small lifestyle changes for remarkable results'.   Later on you may gradually introduce more good habits to your daily life in order to notice even better results. An importa...

Now this is really a very tough question to answer.  But I am myself a teen and I have somewhat found the answer to it. So I will tell you guys about it. Start:  You probably have heard people telling you about enjoying your youth by going out to parties, dancing with friends, going to restaurants, going to birthday parties and what not. On the first glance it seems that they are right because these years are the best years of our life but if we dive deeper we find that these are the same people who are not successful. These are the same people who enjoyed their youth and now are living a shit life because they didn't build that solid foundation during their teens, twenties and early thirties. So what should you do. Should you enjoy your youth or hustle and grind. Let's explain the answer by telling you two examples. Example 1:  There's a man named Jack (sorry if there's a real guy named Jack reading it). Jack is like the typical teenager who likes to go out with his fr...

5/04/22: Let me start the blog with a real story. Yesterday, me and my sister went for shopping in a mall. There were many female workers and male workers there. I was just shopping then I noticed that many female workers were looking at me. At first I didn't gave any attention because they were much older than me but after sometime I was assured that ,"Yeah thay are actually looking at me." Then I thought why was this happening, those girls were much older than me yet they were looking at me. Then I realised that I had become a somewhat rare guy because of my physique and looks and it's rare to find such type of guys. Look I am not bragging but just I am telling you that working on yourself does has its own benfits. In the mall the older guys were just staring at me because they were looking at a 16 yr old kid who has better physique then them and it's a rare thing. #nobragging Now let's get to the main part Look many guys don't even work for ...

You are the main character of your own life and think others are just side characters in your story, so you consider yourself to be special. This is an emotional approach to your life. This blog is for men btw. Let's take a more logical approach. World population will reach 8 billion in 2023. So I will just consider the population to be 8 billion. Out of that 8 billion, 4 billion are men and 4 billion are women. So in such a large scale do you think you will even be special. You are just like an ant, no one knows you. You will only be special if you are the top 5% of men. The rating scale: Now let's talk about a big problem, the rating scale. In a scale of 1-10 many consider 5 to be the average but it's not. In the sclae of 1-10, 3 is where most of the people lie. This has been explained properly in a video by the youtuber named 1stman.  check out the video . So, 3 is where majority of the males lie. But majority of males think that they are better than average,...

If you don't know what male advantage is then let me tell you. Male advantage can be simply understood by the saying 'Men age like wine and women age like milk'. This phrase is self explanatory. It means that women look their best and have the highest sexual market value (sexual market value is just the measure of how much you are desirable to the opposite gender) when they are young and just like milk' gets spoilt in due course of time similiarly a girl's looks also get deteriorated as she ages. You probably know that a girl will never look as good as she was in her 30s and 50s as she did in her 20s. On the other hand, men age like wine we just get better with age if we work on ourselves.  A young man might be young, dumb, broke and ugly but he can improve every aspect with age. A man can go to the gym and improve his body, he may go from a skinny, fat or skinny-fat guy to a muscular handsome guy. A man can work on his business or 9-5 job and go from a broke kid to...

Think of this situation  'A guy creates a YouTube channel, creates 4-5 videos in total checked the channel analytics, didn't see any results. Another guy starts a youtube channel but he makes it a goal to publish 1-2 videos each day despite the views' Who do you think will quit earlier the first guy or the second one. It's mostly the first guy.                              WHY? Because the first guy focused on the results and not on the process. Why does focusing on results won't work? Look, the result of an outcome can't be controlled by our own will but it can be influenced by our actions. If you just focus on what you need to do and don't focus on 'why do I don't see any results?' then you are most likely not to quit easily. My blogs don't get many views but do you think it would stop me. No, because I have made up my mind that I will publish blogs for at least 2 years at a minimum and that to...

Skip to the conclusion part if you want only the main details. If you want to learn in-depth then read the complete blog. Photo by RODNAE Productions from Pexels The average man just wastes his time scrolling on Instagram, stalking girls, watching pointless videos on YouTube, eating junk food all day, doesn't work out, sits like a sloth all day, isn't attractive and doesn't even try to improve himself. Now after reading the above paragraph you probably thought of other people and not of yourself because you probably think you are better than the average but that's just your big fat ego telling you that you are better than average. Let me tell you something, I think most of the men after reading this passage must have probably thought of others and not of themselves. This is because just like you the majority of the people have a big ego due to which they consider themselves better than the average. Let's see if you are higher than average Consider a scal...

I DO BELIEVE SOMETHING VERY MAGICAL CAN HAPPEN WHEN YOU READ A GOOD BOOK - J.K. ROWLING      Photo by Thought Catalog from Pexels Many famous personalities read books such as   Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, A.P.J. Abdul Kalam, Mark Zuckerberg, Abraham Lincoln, Reese Witherspoon, Albert Einstein yeah you name it. Bill Gates takes two weeks off a year to stay in a cabin and to read books and think about bigger goals. Why do you think these people read books: They read those books just because they knew the advantages of reading. Some of those are: 1) Reading improves concentration and the ability to focus. 2) Reading is like exercise for the mind. 3) Reading reduces stress. 4) Reading increases general knowledge. 5) Reading develops imagination. 6) Reading books is also a kind of entertainment. Why is reading books essential for self development? If you are into holistic self development then you probably read books because in holistic self dev...

So before telling you some little details about Abundance Mentality let me tell you what abundance mentality is. " Abundance mindset is the idea or worldview that there are enough resources and successes for all to share. " This term originated from Stephen Covey's successful book ' The 7 habits of highly successful people' . Meaning: People who have an abundance mindset have a deep-rooted belief that the world is full of possibility and opportunities and thus achieve greater success than people with scarcity mindset because a person with scarcity mindset will always have that idea that there isn't enough and one must guard their accomplishments and achievements. Advantages of abundance mentality: People with abundance mentality are generally confident from within. Let me explain with an example: Suppose you want to attract a girl and you have that abundance mentality i.e. you believe that tens of hundreds of women are chasing after you...